The COVID-19 pandemic has challenged all of us to live our lives differently, whether that’s the way we work, how we buy essential items like food, or what we do with our leisure time.
For many people, it has also interrupted important processes like divorce, separation and shared parental responsibilities, all of which will eventually need to return to a new kind of normality.
In the meantime, it might be worth considering temporary arrangements that keep your household safe during the duration of social distancing measures, while also allowing you to respond to the flexibility that may be needed in the coming months.
Circumstances are changing all the time, and that means your arrangements may need to change too. If you are able to adapt to this quite amicably, it could reduce the levels of stress all members in your household face throughout 2020.
We understand that many couples and families are facing a wide range of different situations at the moment. Just some examples include:
A lot of us are changing the way we do certain things until the pandemic has passed, and especially during ‘lockdown’, so it’s worth considering whether temporary measures could help to make aspects of your current or past relationship less stressful.
In most cases, temporary measures will not be legally binding and you can simply return to pre-existing permanent arrangements as soon as it is practical to do so.
But with the help of a family mediator, you can come up with an amicable alternative in light of the extreme circumstances at present.
That might mean having a semi-formal discussion about your desire to separate or divorce once the current crisis is over, or it could mean varying your normal arrangements with respect to parental responsibilities.
If you live separately from your former partner, for example, this could be a good time to agree that the children should live for slightly longer at each address between handovers, to reduce the number of journeys you have to make.
Family mediation takes a positive approach at all times, but especially in a situation like the one we are all currently facing, it can be hugely beneficial to adopt an optimistic and amicable outlook on any discussions.
With the help of an experienced mediator, you can talk about things you might normally find quite difficult, and make sure you are not under any avoidable stress at an already difficult time.
At Marcia Mediation we are carrying out more sessions via video conference and telephone calls, so we can continue to provide you with essential mediation services without any interruption due to the changing social distancing rules.