Dignity in Divorce is something Marcia Mediation always strive to find for our clients, and in the coming months you will see it become a more prominent part of our public image, in our logo and throughout our website – so what do we mean by Dignity in Divorce?
First of all, it’s not a euphemism. People often talk about ‘dignity’ when someone is living through illness or hardship, but for us it’s not about pity, it’s about positivity.
Divorce is not an inherently negative process. It does not have to be an ending, even though it brings your marriage to an end, and we know plenty of former couples who have remained on civil and even friendly terms following their separation. When conflicts are resolved in a participative and integrative way, instead of through contest, relationships can be sustained and strengthened.
The benefits to this are obvious, as it helps to minimise the emotional impact of separating from someone who you may have been very close to over a long period of time, and you don’t have to lose their positive presence in your life just because you no longer wish to be married.
If you have children, it’s even more important that you are able to remain civil, and being able to be in the same room together will make future family occasions much more bearable.
However, we also recognise that at the time that a relationship breaks down and until the divorce is finalised, it might not seem as though that amicable outcome is achievable – but whether you manage to become friends or not, that is no reason why you cannot have Dignity in Divorce during the proceedings.
How mediation provides Dignity in Divorce
The breakdown of a relationship is usually a fraught emotional time – there are exceptions where separation is amicable and mutually agreeable, but in most cases there will be some kind of dispute along the way.
Mediation provides a bridge – two bridges in fact, in both time and space.
For the short term, your mediator bridges the physical gap between all of the involved parties, representing both separating partners and the interests of any dependants whose views need to be taken into account.
This is a way to make sure nobody has the ‘loudest’ voice, and that opinions can be transmitted between all parties without descending into petty squabbling – making the process more dignified overall.
Over time, mediation also provides a break from direct contact and disagreement, helping both former partners to reconcile their differences, not to save their marriage per se, but to save any remaining chance at a future friendship.
Together all of this means mediation gives you the best possible chance of an amicable and adult resolution to your divorce proceedings, and enough Dignity in Divorce for all concerned to walk away with your heads held high and look to the future.