Currently, 42 per cent of all marriages end in divorce according to the Office of National Statistics. The first working Monday in January sees more people separate on any other day of the year, leading to many solicitors calling it ‘Divorce Monday.’
The Christmas holidays are a stressful time for most people, whether they have children or not. If a couple have been having serious problems, a Christmas/New Year spent arguing can feel like the final nail in the coffin.
Why is this?
Because of the weather and commitments over Christmas/New Year, everybody is cooped up inside for the majority of the time and there has usually been an invasion of the in-laws and several arguments about who bought what and for whom. If people drink to excess this can also cause friction and even more arguments.
Another reason why January sees an increase in separations is because often when one partner has decided they want a divorce they don’t want to be seen to have ruined Christmas (especially if children are involved) so don’t tell their partner of their decision until afterwards.
Can mediation help?
If you and your partner have been going through a rough few weeks/months/years and are planning on separating once Christmas is over, maybe you should consider mediation in the next few weeks, rather than focusing on your Christmas preparations. It’s much more important to begin communicating with each other, and mediation can help you do this.
Whenever anyone applies for a divorce, they legally have to go through the mediation process but you might want to call on a trustworthy mediator even before you reach this stage. If you live in the Sale/Greater Manchester area you could turn to Marcia Mediation, who have been helping people move forward and resolve their issues, since 2004.